September 02, 2002

A weekend we'll never forget...

One would think that would mean a bunch of good things happened. Well, they did. But unfortunately everything that happened on our camping trip was overshadowed on our trip home...

We decided to stop by Jen's parents house because they were on the way home from our camping area. While we were there, they got a call from a relative who does the normal "checking in" of another relative, Jen's Great-Grandmother, Nana. When Nana did not call her, and would not answer her phone, Jen's father was next in line. We offered to swing by since her house was also on our way home. We figured she went out with some friends like she normally does.

Now there is one thing you need to know. This woman was 93 years old and was healthier than an ox. She had her mind and her body still in tact at her old age. She even drove her own car. Yes, she drove a car at 93 years old. She used to joke with us that they gave her a license that wouldn't expire until 2010.

Anyway, when we arrived she did not answer the door. We found her Saturday mail in her mail box, the Satruday and Sunday papers outside, and her car parked in her garage. Our hearts started to race as we were trying to find a way into the house. She never forgets to get the paper. Luckily for us, a neighbor knew where a spare key was hidden so we could get into the house. By this point all things looked bad. When Jen walked in and got no response to her calls, both of our stomachs dropped.

Living room, kitchen, bathroom, no Nana. Jens heads upstairs and checks the bedroom. Nana was laying on the bed. She had passed away in her sleep.

I can only imagine what Jen is going through right now. Four months ago she lost her Grandfather. Now she lost her Great-Grandmother. I feel so bad for her because I can't do anything for her.......... =(

For me, this is the third death of someone I knew in 1 year. I lost my very close grandmother almost a year ago now. I knew Jen's grandfather very well when he died. I've only met Nana once, but that time I did, she was a trooper. I wish I could be in that health if I live to be 93.

So with all the rides and games we played at the amusement park, all the stars we starred at and campfires we built, all the fun we had this weekend, they will all be over shadowed by the memory of Nana; and Jen having to find her first...

Part of me is thinking, someone is going to say I'm a heartless prick because I wrote that our weekend was ruined by a death and that it's all Nana's fault that our weekend was ruined. Well I'm not a heartless prick. And it was not her fault. Anyone who has lost a love one knows what this is like. I'm not trying to downplay an awesome weekend. My point was to say that with all the fun we had, we'll never be able to forget it now because of this one tragic event that happened at the end of it. If you still think I'm a prick for some god aweful reason, step down and go somewhere else...

Posted by Geek at September 2, 2002 09:46 AM

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My heart goes out to you and Jen. These things are never easy or taken lightly. They are especially difficult for the young in life. Poor Jen, her last memory of her will be this for a while. But soon the joyous moments of a lifelong relationship will overcome this sad hour. For now be saddened by this unexpected loss. Mourn and lament the passing of this loved one. This is good for the soul and is our god given healing process.

But remember one thing. This horrible moment in your lives is not the sum of this loved ones life. So when the mourning has subsided and your soul takes a breath again. Let the celebration begin. The celebration of ninety three years of vibrant living. Relive the happy moments so that you might wash away the sadness that overwhelms you now. My father died when I was on my honey moon so I know what it is to have emotions be swung full circle. I grieved heavily, but now I only remember all those wonderful times we had. I hear the words he spoke everytime I'm confused about which path to take. He is with me as I cling to his memory in my soul. And one day we will be together again.

Life is short. Cling to those close to you, reach out to those farther off that they might become close. And most of all, seek out the comfort and wisdom that comes from the one who made you. Like the shepherd lures the sheep to greener grass by grabing up the newborn lamb and moving away. So does he grab us also into his arms when our time here is done to comfort us and to draw those whom love us closer to him. God Bless

Posted by: Jump at September 2, 2002 11:03 AM

William, I really don't know what to say... Thank you.

Posted by: Andy at September 2, 2002 11:10 AM

William thank you for being so supportive. I will never forget the way she spoke or the way she made me laugh but for now I can only see her lying in that bed all by herself with no one to be whith her while she passed away. I'm sure my great grandfather Papa came down to get her and tell her to be with him. But even still I still see her in that bed.

Posted by: Jen at September 2, 2002 05:20 PM

Andy I just wanted to say thank you for being there with me and thank you for being so calm when I initally flipped out. You are the best. I love you so much I can't even describe how much I love you I hope you will always remember that.

Posted by: Jen Again at September 2, 2002 05:27 PM

Wow, I don't know what to say guys. My Condolenses Jen, My Great Aunt Passed away about a year and a half, I never knew her that well, but it still hurt. Suprisingly to me, my Father had no reaction to his aunt passing away(I guess this is partly due to his brain injury, but sstill quite unnerving). Hope that you will be able to get over this tragedy and remember her for who she was.

Posted by: David at September 3, 2002 06:25 PM

Jen, You know I'll always be there for you.

David, Thank you.

Posted by: Andy at September 3, 2002 10:58 PM

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